Married Life, Sex, Single Life

Before the First Night: 7 Things Every Girl Should Know about Sex Before Her Wedding Night

Before I got married, I thought I knew it all when it came to sex. Even though I had never actually done it before Zach and I got married, I was pretty confident in my knowledge. I had read enough marriage books and dating books to think that I knew all the things I needed to know. I guess I …

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Obedience to God Shouldn’t Come From Obligation, but from Love

Zach and I have been married two and a half years now. We now know that there are some things that each of us do that drive the other crazy. Here’s a short list:   Things That Drive Ashleigh Crazy: When Zach leaves the kitchen cabinets open. If Zach forgets to put things away (particularly forgets to put things back …

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Redefining Purity: It’s Not Just About Sex

For some reason, when we talk about purity in the church, we’re almost always talking about sexual purity. We had a whole “purity movement” about a decade ago that was almost completely focused on staying sexually pure. While I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with that, it’s not really biblical.   Purity in the Bible What I mean by …

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Redefining Purity: It’s Not Just For Singles

Let’s be clear here: purity is not only for single people. Despite that fact, if you looked a Christian books, sermons, and other resources that talk about purity, the vast majority of them would be geared towards singles. A good chunk of them would probably be geared towards the youth group/college age crowd.   When we see purity as simply …

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Redefining Purity: Purity Is Not the Same as Naiveté

Being pure does not mean you have to live in a bubble. Last week, my blog post was about how purity is a process, not some point you can’t cross. If that’s true, that means that even if you know things or have experienced things that maybe you shouldn’t, that doesn’t necessarily make you less pure.   The Wrong Idea …

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10 Reasons Valentine’s Day Is Stupid

I’m not going to try to be spiritual or theological when it comes to Valentines Day. Valentine’s Day is easily one of the dumbest holidays of the year (right up there with Groundhog Day and Arbor Day). I always thought that I just hated Valentine’s Day because I was  single. Now that I’m married though (and my husband’s birthday happens …

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Marriage Is Temporary

Every Disney princess movie pretty much ends the same way: said princess and her prince charming ride off into the sunset. From this, we assume that all their problems were permanently solved and they stay married forever. You don’t really think about how their life progresses or how it ends. Married Life Is Still Unpredictable The truth is that life …

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