Let’s Be Real: Men and Women Are Different

Can we just be real for a minute? Men and women are different. There are distinctive things that make someone a man or a women. Some of those things you can see, some you can’t, but there is a distinction between the two.

Two Lies about Gender

In our world, that’s a controversial thing to say. On the one hand, hard core feminists will say that really there are no differences between men and women. A woman can do whatever a man can do.

Now in a lot of ways, that’s true. We are more similar than we are different. However, it’s not entirely true. After all, a man can’t give birth or breastfeed and a woman can’t impregnate a man. We are more alike than we are different, but we are different.

There is a also move currently that wants you to believe that gender is fluid. That within one year, month, day, or hour you could identify yourself as a man, a women, or any of the other 40 odd new genders that they’ve come up with. What you call yourself or identify as doesn’t really matter though.

We Are Physically Different

When it comes down to it, you either have male parts or you have female parts. Granted, there can be some other possibilities if you were born abnormally or had surgical procedures done, but 99% of the time, you can clearly, biologically be identified as a man or a women based on what anatomical parts you have.

The anatomical parts aren’t just the ones between your legs either. Have you ever watched a crime show where they have to identify bones? You can tell from the bones of a person whether they are male or female. We build muscle differently. We store fat differently. Men and women are different.

Different Doesn’t Mean Unequal

However, that doesn’t mean that different meals unequal, which I think is what many people have come to believe. Men and women are different, but they are still equal.

Think about two brothers. More than likely they are different. One might be good at math. The other might be an artist. One might be outgoing and the other might be on the quiet side. Though they are different, their parents love them equally. The way that love looks might be different based on their personalities and preferences, but they are both loved the same “amount.” The brothers can be equals and loved equally without being the same or being treated in exactly the same way.

Differences are okay. Men are generally physically stronger than women. That doesn’t mean that all men are stronger than all women. It simply means that on average, most men are stronger than most women. That’s okay. That doesn’t mean that women have to try to be as strong as men. If they’re interested in being super strong, that’s fine, but every woman doesn’t have to be a strong as every man. Their inequality in physical strength doesn’t mean they are worth less as humans.

 The same is true in the areas that women are often stronger than men. Apparently women on average have a higher pain tolerance than men (though I think I might be an exception to this one).

Differences Mean We Need Each Other

We should celebrate our differences and the way that we, as men and women, can help and support each other. The includes celebrating our physical differences. Women shouldn’t be ashamed to ask men for help when they need a little extra muscle. It’s not showing weakness to ask for help. We all have limits, male and female. We should embrace those and allow others to help us rather than thinking we have to do it all.

God created us differently for a reason. He wants us to rely on one another. When we call on someone of the opposite sex to assist us with something, we are working together in the way God intended us to. He wants us to rely on one another. Only together can we really display God’s full image, and that will be our focus for the rest of the month on the blog.

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