Oh “The One.” Supposedly, they’re the person in this world that we have to find in order to be perfectly happy. Supposedly, this person is the one our soul is destined to combine with to create a perfect couple that will have a perfect marriage and be perfectly happy for ever and ever amen. According to popular belief, you have …
The Purity Movement: Where Do We Go from Here?
The last four weeks we’ve looked at the purity movement: what it is, the things it was right about and the two posts on what it was wrong about (which you can find here and here). You may be thinking, so what? What does a movement in the late 90’s early 2000’s have to do with life today? As I’ve …
8 Ways the Purity Movement Went Wonky, Part 2
Last week’s blog post listed four of the 8 major flaws that the purity movement had. While these weren’t things the purity movement set out to do, they were unintended consequences of its main messages about purity, sexuality, etc. We left off with problem number four last week, so we’ll pick up with number five this week. 5. Unhealthy obsession …
8 Ways the Purity Movement Went Wonky, Part 1
Last week on the blog, we looked at some things that the purity movement got right. There were some good things about the movement, things that we need to remember and embrace. However, there were many ways that the purity movement, though it had a good goal, went a little wonky. I’ve come up with eight ways that the purity …
4 Things the Purity Movement Got Right
Last week, my blog post looked at basics of the purity movement of the 1990’s and early 2000’s. You can go back to read the full post here, but here’s the Reader’s Digest version: It was a movement within the church to encourage Christian young people to stay sexually pure until marriage. The purity movement still matters today because we …
The Purity Movement: What Is It and Why Should I Care?
When I was 11 years old, I didn’t know it, but I became a part of something that would be come to be known as the purity movement. I entered the movement by reading the book I Kissed Dating Good-Bye by Joshua Harris. The focus of the purity movement was to help young people remain sexually pure. In our sexualized …
The Best Books for Christian Singles
When I have a life problem, the first thing I do is find all the best books on the subject. Being single felt like a problem to me, so I read quite a few books on the topic of singleness, relationships, and dating. Not all of them were great. Actually, a few of them were pretty crappy. However, there are …
Why You’re Still Single
Maybe the hardest part of singleness is not being able to pinpoint why you’re still single. You just want to know what it is that’s keeping you from entering relational bliss. If you knew that, you could fix it and move on with your life. It can be really easy to go down a blackhole of all the reasons you’re …
What to Do (And Not to Do) If You’re Single
When I was 25 I felt like an old maid. I realize now that I was being a bit overdramatic, but it felt terrible at the time. Partially, I think it was just that I was surrounded by people who were married. I felt like a left behind loser. The feeling made me more desperate to shed my single status. …
The History of Singleness in The Church (And Why You Should Care)
In my humble opinion, February is the worst month (you can read more about my feelings here). You just want winter to be over, but it’s still in full force. If you’re single, February can be a terrible month for another reason: February means Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day means an awkward day where you don’t have any special someone to …